Well we made it! Happy 6 month anniversary to Secrets of the Single Girl. I can’t believe I‘ve kept this thing going, haha. But it’s been so much fun writing and learning and growing. The past 6 months feels like a whirlwind. So many feelings and emotions!! And ya’ll know I hate those damn feelings.
A couple things I’ve realized in the past 6 months…
I have more male readers than female, which actually shocked me. This blog was initially meant for women, but I guess more men want to know the “secrets of being single.” Also, men speak up more, which I absolutely love. Keep it coming fellas.
I thought this was going to be my year for relationships, but I really feel like it was my year to build long lasting friendships. The past 2 months in particular I have had the most amazing time. I can’t think of a time where I have been happier. But along with building your tribe, you also have to let someone friends go. That’s the part that really sucks. But just like in a relationship, if you’re values aren’t the same as your friends…it really can’t grow.
I still can’t talk about my feelings in person. I thought as soon as I recognized my feelings I would be like a waterfall of emotions. My heart says otherwise. I close up and get sweaty and nervous. And then I end up saying the wrong thing. I’m way more conscious of my feelings, which I guess is a step in the right direction. But I’ve hurt people I really cared about because I said the wrong thing. I push away men who I feel could actually hurt me.
And lastly, the world doesn't revolve around me. Shocking.
When I look at the 2 pictures, I see 2 completely different women. Yes I know, I look the same. Stay with me here. The girl on the left had just been broken up with by someone she cared about. She was modeling for validation because she felt so ugly. She needed the Instagram likes and comments. She was insecure and never felt good enough. She put up with people talking down to her. And she needed a relationship to feel whole. She didn’t know her value and definitely wouldn’t have considered herself high value.
The woman on the right is fierce. She doesn’t let anyone else’s opinions bother or change her. She has left bad situations before they got worse. She stands up for herself. She loves herself completely. She knows her worth and absolutely believes she is a high value woman. She won't settle. She is now and always will be enough.
(And the guy that had broken up with her? He was a psycho and still calls a year and a half later)
I’m constantly learning and growing, but I feel so grateful to be where I am. I’m surrounded by amazing people. So thank you all for reading and believing in me. Even if you read my blog because you think I’m ridiculous, I appreciate it.
And if you want to see more of my ridiculous on tv...Tune in this Thursday, July 13th at 9pm on Fox. I'll be searching for love on Love Connection with Andy Cohen!
Xoxo
Allison